Think positive

20120731-001847.jpgWe all survived the family vacation!! It was great to be able to see my grandparents, I love that they are so close now. I don’t think I realized how much I missed them. We spent quite a bit of time with them. They love Alex. You would have thought that they had known the girls their whole lives the way they were with them. We had a few issues, but overall not too bad.

Alex and I started discussing dates yesterday and I think that we ma have figured it out. It isn’t until September, but I am excited! I looked at dresses online yesterday. We have decided that we are going to do the ceremony without the kids. We just do not want to take any chances that any of the kids decides to throw a fit of some sorts. We will have a reception a couple weeks after the ceremony. I am thinking that we will have a big family dinner the first night that we have all of the kids home to celebrate just us.

KD had until yesterday to file and file a response for the contempt motions, but I did not get anything and the court’s website is not showing anything either. I am going today to file the return of service showing that the second two were mailed to him. This hearing on Friday should be a piece of cake.20121204-234533.jpg

I talked to the kids’ counselor yesterday because I asked her if she would support a modification this time. She told me that she will write a letter, but she is stopping private practice in a couple months. I am hoping to find #2 someone who specializes in Autism and then find someone the rest of the kids can trust. Maybe find #1 her own. Going to call today to make the appointment for #2’s reevaluation.

Alex quit taking the lyrica and he is coming back mentally. It is nice to have him back.

Tonight is our just us date night for the week. I have something planned, but I will have to tell you about it tomorrow because it is a surprise for Alex.

Well, I better go shower so that I can wake up A1 & A2. I let them sleep in and am going to drop them off at school this morning.

Here is hoping today is a great day!20120731-001919.jpg



Surprise Weekend Getaway Idea

Guys, are you trying to find the perfect way to surprise your girl? Do the unexpected.

Yes, I know this isn’t my usual post type, but thought I would throw something new out there.

Start by asking her out to dinner on Friday night. Tell her to be ready by a certain time. Tell her that the only thing you will tell her is that it is a nice restaurant. When you show up, have her favorite flowers sitting in the car.

What she doesn’t know is that you have a plan. You either need to have access to her clothes or you need to enlist the help of someone who does. You need to pack her a weekend worth of clothes, without her noticing. Do not forget a toothbrush, her hair stuff, deodorant, and makeup. Have all of this hiding in the trunk of your car when you pick her up.

Take her to her favorite restaurant for dinner and suggest an evening drive after dinner. Once you get on the road, drive to your prearranged destination (bed and breakfast, hotel). When you get there tell her that you have planned this weekend getaway. Make sure you have some plans, but not too many. Plan something just for her (hair, nails, spa, massage) and something for you to do while she is having her time. Make sure she has a keepsake from the weekend that will always remind her. Even if its just a picture of the two of you framed with little things from the weekend (menu, flower, something from hotel/b and b).

Trust me, this should go over well. Your girl will appreciate the vacation and your spontaneity. You don’t even have to go far to make this work. Just find local things that you aren’t necessarily familiar with. Have fun with it!!


August 16, 2006

Been so busy in the last month. We went to Ocean Shores for Hubby’s first weekend home. Hubby has been trying to find a job. I am being transferred to Barker. I am nervous about it. I don’t know the frescatas or the new grill. I don’t know the new system. I am afraid that I will be overloaded with my work and school schedules. #1 is supposed to start school, but we don’t know where. I have also been getting grumpy easy. I don’t know what my problem is. This seems to be helping my headache some. I guess I should go.

July 10, 2006

The trial is supposed to start in two weeks. I am very nervous. I have been a little off lately. I feel like I am not myself. I don’t like being at work. I want to talk to [my general manager] about it just so that she realizes that this is not me. I am not usually so out of it. I can’t wait for all of this to be over so we can have a normal life. I am glad BIL2 is home on leave, but it is making my life difficult. I am trying to plan #1’s birthday party, but oh no cant do that because MIL wants us all to go to the coast, but we won’t know anything until the last minute. I am afraid of requesting Monday off and then not being able to go. We cannot afford that. I am tired of being the bad guy because I am thinking logically. I am the bad guy because I want to give the kids their own birthday parties. I feel like I am expected to do everything everywhere, but o one wants to help when I ask for it. I don’t want to depend on anyone except me because I don’t want to be let down or left alone. I don’t want to depend on Jason’s help because I need to know that I can do this all by myself if I need to. I will figure this out, but I don’t want to take me away from my kids. They need me too. I just wish I had a friend, or a sibling I could talk to. I want to talk someone without being judged. Unfortunately, I don’t trust anyone enough to talk; and even if I did, Jason would get mad at me for it. I am so stressed out. I just wish that I had something to do to release it all. That is part of the reason I wanted to get the gym membership and we ended up wasting $200 plus. I am going to try to get a refund. It is after 11 and I do not feel like I can sleep. I know I need it, but there is so much going through my head right now. I have thought about doing some housework, or maybe some exercise. I really need to get myself into shape and healthy so I can keep up with myself and my kids. We are going to all be very busy here real soon. God, please help me to do what is right. Help me to keep my temper and find healthy stress releases. I guess I am going to bed now.