Think positive

20120731-001847.jpgWe all survived the family vacation!! It was great to be able to see my grandparents, I love that they are so close now. I don’t think I realized how much I missed them. We spent quite a bit of time with them. They love Alex. You would have thought that they had known the girls their whole lives the way they were with them. We had a few issues, but overall not too bad.

Alex and I started discussing dates yesterday and I think that we ma have figured it out. It isn’t until September, but I am excited! I looked at dresses online yesterday. We have decided that we are going to do the ceremony without the kids. We just do not want to take any chances that any of the kids decides to throw a fit of some sorts. We will have a reception a couple weeks after the ceremony. I am thinking that we will have a big family dinner the first night that we have all of the kids home to celebrate just us.

KD had until yesterday to file and file a response for the contempt motions, but I did not get anything and the court’s website is not showing anything either. I am going today to file the return of service showing that the second two were mailed to him. This hearing on Friday should be a piece of cake.20121204-234533.jpg

I talked to the kids’ counselor yesterday because I asked her if she would support a modification this time. She told me that she will write a letter, but she is stopping private practice in a couple months. I am hoping to find #2 someone who specializes in Autism and then find someone the rest of the kids can trust. Maybe find #1 her own. Going to call today to make the appointment for #2’s reevaluation.

Alex quit taking the lyrica and he is coming back mentally. It is nice to have him back.

Tonight is our just us date night for the week. I have something planned, but I will have to tell you about it tomorrow because it is a surprise for Alex.

Well, I better go shower so that I can wake up A1 & A2. I let them sleep in and am going to drop them off at school this morning.

Here is hoping today is a great day!20120731-001919.jpg



A New Day

It has come to my attention that I have been neglecting my blog lately. I cannot imagine why…Boy Scouts, volleyball, cross country, psychological evaluation, work, counseling, day-to-day parenting…

#2 finished the behavior program that he was in. It did a great job. Now, I just need to stick with the things that they taught us. On the last day of the program, the results from his psychological evaluation came in. He has ADHD, borderline Autism Spectrum, and Intermittent Explosive Disorder. As far as the ADHD,  we are supposed to see how school goes for the next two weeks and then follow up with his primary care doctor to decide if we can avoid medicating. For the Autism Spectrum, we are supposed to socialize him. So, tonight he started Boy Scouts. The troop seems to be a great fit and they are very active. They are youth driven and go on some type of camp out every month. I am very excited and he seems to be also.

Alex and I are us, but the big US (all eight) is not great, but what is new. I can say that the eight of us spent the whole weekend together at Alex’s and there were no major issues. My kids need to work on the tone and volume of their voices. Alex’s place is very small and his girls are used to having their own space. I am not sure what will happen with us, but I will keep trying,

I went to my primary care doctor for my annual pelvic exam and pap smear. I talked to her about how heavy my periods are and she referred me to a gynecologist to discuss an endometrial ablation. I went to this doctor last week. He said that he thinks I am too young for that. However, he did tell me that he wants to try to figure out why my periods are so heavy. He told me that he thinks either an IUD or a hysterctomey would be better options given my age. He did have me get a vaginal ultrasound. The tech saw what she said looked like a polyp. He also had me get some blood work done. I should hear from him this week. I am a little worried that what the tech saw is not a polyp, but something worse. Either way, I figure that the hysterectomy is my best bet. The recovery is what I am worried about. The missing work. The inability to drive (getting kids to school).

I talked to the primary care doctor about what I might be able to take to deal with the anxiety that I get when I am going to have to deal with KD and she called me in a prescription for a new med that I am supposed to take about a half hour prior to having to deal with him. We had school conferences last week and it worked.

Found out yesterday that my grandma un-ranaway from home. The kids and I stopped by there this afternoon. She was happy to see us. I am sure that she will just pretend that it never happened.

My LSAT results came in today. I got a 156. That put me at the 67th percentile. It put  me at the 75th percentile of the 2013 admitted class. Now, I just have to wait and see what happens with the application.

Finances more than suck with me working less than 20 hours every two weeks. #2 is back at school this week so I should be able to work more of my normal hours. I just don’t know what I am going to do about money until then. #2 needs a viola, #3 needs his violin fixed (his teacher offered to help me with it), I need to pay for Boy Scouts, I did not pay for the athletic fee for #3’s cross country, #1 just started volleyball and will need an athletic fee paid… child support would be nice.

Well, I am going watch Medium on Netflix and work on my current blanket (actually for me!). Good night.

Oh the possibilities…

How can a person stand next to someone they once loved and not be able to talk about the one thing they have in common? Especially when that thing is your children? I just don’t understand.
KD and I ended up on the same elevator on the way to today’s required meetings for #2’s behavior program. I tried to talk to him about the plans for this Friday and he just looked at me and pulled out his phone. Then, I brought up Halloween, he just ignored me. Oh, but remember, “this is a shared parenting plan.”


We met with the program doctor today. When they do their psychological testing next week, they will be looking at Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD), part of the Autism Spectrum, and Attention Deficit Hyperactive Disorder (ADHD). That is a lot to process in one conversation, especially one that was scheduled for five (5) minutes. Then we went to our weekly parenting class. This week, we discussed disengaging from our child’s behavior and acknowledging our own emotions before dealing with the child’s behavior. One of the resources she gave us ( was interesting and hopefully will help with the others also.
I feel guilty that he didn’t get the help sooner, but like Alex reminded me, I can’t change the past.